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Three into 2

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A bittersweet birthday.

This month is the month I turn one year older. Not that I ever feel it. That’s the beauty of running around after young children I suppose.

But here’s the thing – my birthday is not just my birthday. I’m in the unusual position of sharing it with my mother and grandfather. Three generations of family all born on the same day.

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Whenever I tell someone my ‘fascinating fact’ it is always met with gasps and exclamations of “wow, that must be brilliant”.

The truth is though that growing up, I never fully appreciated how lovely it was to share a birthday with 2 other members of my family.

Not until now.

Because I don’t any more.

My grandfather sadly passed away last October and as I celebrate my birthday this year, it feels like a part of me is missing.

Because we used to be a 3.

Now we’re a 2.

And 3 into 2 just doesn’t go.

No more will I see my grandfather’s face on our birthday, except in my dreams. No more will I hug him, kiss him or tell him that I love him.

But I can still wish him a happy birthday and remember him.

I thought it would be nice to release a balloon into the sky, but Olivia got upset at the thought of letting it go. My grandad wouldn’t want anyone to be upset, least of all his little princess.

So instead we lit a candle, had a moment of silence and I thought of him.

Birthday Candle

I remembered the time he took me to his allotment and the sleepovers I used to have with my sister.

I remembered how he always supported and believed in me.

I remembered how much he loved his family, especially his grandchildren and great grandchildren.

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Grandfather with Grandson

I feel privileged that I knew him for 35 years.

Sleep well Grandad… and happy birthday. I miss you, but I will always remember you.

16 Comments

  1. I am so sorry to hear of your grandfathers passing. Losing someone special to you is awful. I still miss my Granddad every day.

    I hope that you found some peace with the day, I am sure he would have wanted that and happy belated birthday.

  2. Sorry to hear about your grandfather. It must have been lovely for him to see you grow up and meet your children too. My grandmother has got to do that and it’s wonderful.

  3. This is a very touching post. How lovely to have such a close relationship with your grandfather. My Mum’s birthday is two days after mine and we always celebrate it together with all of the family.

  4. Im so sorry to hear of your grandfathers passing. It sounds like you have lots of lovely memories with him and its lovely that you got to light and candle and remember those special times with him.m

  5. I know just where you are coming from – there used to be three in our family with the same birthday and now there is just one. It is a very bittersweet time. Happy Birthday xxx

  6. Precious yet sad memories, Laura, I am sure your birthday will not be the same from now on. Happy birthday to you, your mum and your grandpa in heaven.xx

  7. Oh yes, in all the amazement about the coincidence of you all having the same birthday I bet nobody thinks how hard it was going to be for you when one of you was gone. I know I felt weepy on my Grandads birthday this year after losing him 18 months ago, so must be hard to try and feel birthday-ish while also feeling sad. He sounds and looks like a lovely chap. Love to you xx

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